Plain-language writing on the fights that repeat, the silence after them, and what actually helps. Written in-house.
Shutting down during conflict is a nervous-system response, not a character flaw. The four exit patterns — and what yours costs.
ConflictKeeping score isn’t pettiness — it’s what happens when fairness feels uncertain and unspoken. The three fairness states.
ConflictThere’s no rule about who texts first — what matters is whether repair happens at all, and whether it’s always the same person.
Reading about a pattern is step one. Seeing yours takes about five minutes.
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