Relationship Cost Test identifies which of 5 patterns you fall into — The Cost Is Low Right Now, A Cost You Are Carrying Quietly, The Cost Is Structural Now, The Cost Is Outrunning You and This Is Beyond a Pattern. It has 12 scenario questions, takes about 3 minutes, and your free result is instant: your pattern, what it looks like in daily life, where it comes from, and three moves that work with your instincts instead of against them.
Your cost score out of 100, which of the three costs is highest, what that pattern usually looks like day to day, and the one sentence that opens the conversation.
The $4.9 deep report goes further: A 2,000+ word Deep Report: your three-dimension breakdown, the four scenes where the cost shows up (after time together, before asking, after saying no, when you doubt yourself), copy-paste sentences for each, and four moves in order.
• 12 questions, about 3 minutes.
• Free: instant result, no account.
• Deep Report $4.9 one-time — no subscription.
• For laughs & self-reflection — not a diagnostic instrument.
• Written in-house — how we build tests →
Ready? Answer as you scroll — the first question is right below. No button, no signup, no timer.
An original self-report measure built around three cost dimensions — drained energy, given-up boundaries, and eroded self-trust. Every item asks about your own experience, never about the other person’s character. It is a reflection tool, not a diagnosis, and not a way to assess anyone else. This version has 12 everyday scenarios, so the result reflects what you actually do rather than what you would like to be true. The four patterns it sorts you into are The Cost Is Low Right Now, A Cost You Are Carrying Quietly, The Cost Is Structural Now, The Cost Is Outrunning You, This Is Beyond a Pattern.
About 3 minutes. 12 questions, one per screen, and the option order is shuffled per question so you cannot fall into a rhythm and answer on autopilot. No account is required to start.
Yes. Your cost score out of 100, which of the three costs is highest, what that pattern usually looks like day to day, and the one sentence that opens the conversation. The Deep Report is the only paid part — one-time payment, no subscription, no auto-renewal.
A 2,000+ word Deep Report: your three-dimension breakdown, the four scenes where the cost shows up (after time together, before asking, after saying no, when you doubt yourself), copy-paste sentences for each, and four moves in order. It is a one-time $4.9, and it stays readable on the same link as your free result.
Same question, different depth. All of it links back to this test.
Go with your first instinct. There are no right answers here — only honest ones.
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