You are not cold. You just need three days to figure out what you feel before you are willing to say it.
In one line: You are not cold. You just need three days to figure out what you feel before you are willing to say it.
You feel things strongly but late — the feeling arrives, then the words take another week. You would rather say nothing than say something imprecise. So you carry a lot quietly and let people assume you do not care.
Silence reads as indifference even when it is the opposite. Partners fill the gap with their worst theory, and you end up defending against something you never said.
Works best with someone who can wait without punishing you for it — and who will say "take your time, tell me Thursday" instead of pressing at midnight.
Recognise yourself? This page describes a pattern. A five-minute test measures yours.
Take the test →You do not slam doors. You just stop answering, and by the time anyone notices, you are already somewhere else.
steady · holds it inYou can hold two truths at once, which makes you great in a crisis and easy to overlook the rest of the time.
reaching · holds it inYou have already had the entire conversation in your head. Twice. Both versions went badly.