The Relationship Load & Exit Test measures five behavioral dimensions: how much mental load you carry, how you exit conflict, how long you tolerate an undefined relationship, whether you keep silent score, and who initiates repair. 20 questions based on what you actually did in the last 30 days — not how you see yourself — take about 5 minutes, and your free result combines a main label and a second label, like “The Default Planner who disappears when it gets real.”
Your main label and second-label combo (like “The Default Planner who disappears when it gets real”), what the pattern looks like in real life, where it comes from, three counter-moves, and a share card made for Stories.
The $7.9 deep report goes further: A 2,000+ word Deep Report across four scenes — dating, living together, conflict, repair-or-exit — quoting your actual forced choices, with copy-paste scripts for each.
• 20 questions, about 5 minutes, one question per screen.
• Free: your type + full explanation + one practice. No account required.
• Paid ($7.9, one-time): the Deep Report. No subscription, no auto-renewal.
• Framework: An original behavioral test: five relationship dimensions — mental load, conflict withdrawal, ambiguity tolerance, fairness perception, and repair initiation — measured by what you actually did in the last 30 days, not how you see yourself. For reflection and entertainment, not a medical or psychological diagnostic tool.
• Original design: every scenario written in-house — see the research ledger →
Five behavioral dimensions: mental load (who remembers and carries the invisible work), conflict withdrawal (what you do when it gets real), ambiguity tolerance (how long “undefined” stays survivable), fairness perception (whether you keep silent score), and repair initiation (who moves first after a fight).
About 5 minutes. 20 questions — frequency items ask what actually happened in the last 30 days, forced-choice items make you pick between two real costs, and scenario items have no morally right answer. Your combined label appears instantly, free.
Your main label and second-label combo — like “The Default Planner who disappears when it gets real” — what the pattern looks like in daily life, where it comes from, three counter-moves, and a 9:16 share card. No signup needed. The $P report adds four scene-specific scripts; one-time payment, no subscription.
Because behavior is easier to report honestly than self-image. “Who noticed the essentials were running out” has a factual answer; “are you the caring one?” doesn’t. Measuring what you did makes the pattern harder to flatter — and easier to change.
Mental load is the invisible work of noticing, remembering, and reminding. The three ways it gets distributed — and how to see which one you’re in.
Read the guide →Shutting down during conflict is a nervous-system response, not a character flaw. The four exit patterns — and what yours costs.
Read the guide →There’s no universal timeline — but there is a visible difference between mutual and one-sided ambiguity. Here’s how to tell.
Read the guide →Keeping score isn’t pettiness — it’s what happens when fairness feels uncertain and unspoken. The three fairness states.
Read the guide →There’s no rule about who texts first — what matters is whether repair happens at all, and whether it’s always the same person.
Read the guide →