You get what you wanted, then spend a week wondering whether you actually wanted it.
In one line: You get what you wanted, then spend a week wondering whether you actually wanted it.
You make a choice and immediately audit it. You replay conversations for the sentence you got slightly wrong. You can be deeply loved and still unsure whether you are doing this correctly.
Constant auditing makes you hard to reassure, because every reassurance becomes a new thing to examine. The doubt is not about them — but they will feel like it is.
Works best with someone patient enough to answer the same question twice without sighing.
Recognise yourself? This page describes a pattern. A five-minute test measures yours.
Take the test →You would rather have the hard conversation at 1am than lie awake guessing. That is a strength — until it becomes a reflex.
guarded · holds it inYou are not cold. You just need three days to figure out what you feel before you are willing to say it.
steady · holds it inYou can hold two truths at once, which makes you great in a crisis and easy to overlook the rest of the time.